A Way To Improve Our Life

I had learned something useful. For example, if you are so talkative and will unintentionally hurt other people's feelings. You might feel bad and would tell yourself that don't talk to much things. (the don't do this and don't do that). But, what if you looked at another way. Why don't we ask ourselves to do this and do that, but not the don'ts. For the above example, just tell yourself do pay more attention and more careful on what are we talking about. This would help out a little. Hope that you would understand this theory and use this as a philosophy of life.